How to Write Wedding Vows
How to Write Wedding Vows
How to Write the Perfect Love Letter for Valentine’s Day or Your Wedding Vows
Let’s be honest—writing love letters and wedding vows can feel like walking a tightrope over a pit of cliché rom-com lines. You want something heartfelt, meaningful, and personal, but you don’t want to sound like you pulled your words from the script of a bad Hallmark movie or used ChatGPT. Whether you’re crafting a Valentine’s Day love letter or the vows that will define your wedding ceremony, this little guide may help you strike the perfect balance of sincerity, romance, and originality.
Step 1: Forget the Pressure—Write for Your Person
The first rule of writing a great love letter or wedding vows? Stop worrying about sounding poetic or profound. This isn’t a Shakespearean sonnet contest. It’s about your relationship, your love, and your story. Instead of aiming for perfection, focus on authenticity. Think about the little quirks, inside jokes, and shared experiences that make your relationship unique.
Ask yourself:
- What’s one of my favorite memories with this person?
- When did I first realize I loved them?
- What qualities do I admire most about them?
- How do they make my life better every single day?
Jot down your thoughts in raw, unfiltered form. You’ll refine later—but for now, just get the emotions out.
Step 2: Keep It Personal & Avoid Overused Phrases
“You complete me.” “I knew from the moment I met you.” “You are my world.”
We’ve heard them all before. While these statements may be true, they don’t capture what makes your relationship special. Instead of leaning on tired phrases, think about the specifics that make your love story one-of-a-kind.
Instead of: “You make me happy every day.” Try: “Every morning when you make me coffee exactly the way I like it—even when you don’t drink coffee yourself—I know how much you love me.”
Instead of: “I promise to always love you.” Try: “I promise to always stand by your side, whether we’re celebrating wins or dealing with burnt dinner disasters.”
Step 3: Structure It Like a Story
A great love letter or vow speech should have a natural flow. Think of it as telling a short, beautiful love story.
- Start with a memory: Bring them back to a special moment you’ve shared together. Maybe it’s the time you both got caught in the rain and laughed all the way home, or the first time you saw them with bedhead and thought, “Yep, this is my person.”
- Express what they mean to you: Talk about how they’ve changed your life, how they inspire you, or the little things they do that make you fall for them every day.
- Make your promises: Whether in a love letter or wedding vows, end with a commitment to them—whether it’s to always save them the last bite of dessert or to stand by them through every challenge life throws your way.
Step 4: Make It Sound Like You
Your words should reflect your personality. If you’re naturally funny, don’t shy away from humor. If you’re a poetic soul, embrace it. The best love letters and vows sound like the person writing them.
If you two share a playful relationship, your vows might include something like: “I vow to always pretend to be impressed by your random trivia facts—even when I know you’re making half of them up.”
If your love is more sentimental, try: “I promise to cherish every ordinary moment with you, because with you, even the simplest days feel extraordinary.”
Step 5: Keep It Concise & End with Impact
Nobody wants to sit through a 20-minute monologue (especially at a wedding). Keep it heartfelt but concise—aim for one to two minutes for vows and about one page for a love letter.
End strong. Your closing line should leave an impact.
- For wedding vows: “Today, in front of everyone we love, I choose you. Always.”
- For a Valentine’s love letter: “I don’t need a special occasion to tell you I love you—but since today is one, I’ll say it a little louder.”
Writing Perfect Fearless Vows
**If you’re not the romantic writing type, simply describe your partner and relationship to ChatGPT and ask it to write your vows in Canvas. Then make changes to what it produces and make them perfectly match your voice and style. It’s not half bad at it and if nothing else it will give you a great place to start. For example, here’s some vows written by ChatGPT with a simple prompt and no real details about the people. **
Partner 1:
“From the moment we met, you have been my greatest adventure. You are the fire that keeps me warm and the storm that keeps me on my toes. You challenge me, push me, and love me without limits. I vow to stand beside you—not just in the easy moments, but when life is messy, raw, and unfiltered. I promise to celebrate every victory, fight every battle, and always keep our love wild, untamed, and fearless. I vow to choose you every single day—loudly, boldly, and with every ounce of my stubborn, passionate soul.”
Partner 2:
“You are my favorite story—the one I never want to stop writing. With you, love is not just a word; it is action, fire, and the most beautiful kind of chaos. I vow to love you recklessly, to hold you fiercely, and to always be your safe place in a world that can be too much. I promise to dance with you in the rain, to laugh until we can’t breathe, and to remind you every damn day that you are my greatest love, my best friend, and my home. This is not just a vow—it’s a lifelong rebellion against anything less than extraordinary.”
Final Thoughts: Write from the Heart
At the end of the day, writing the perfect love letter or wedding vows isn’t about finding the most eloquent words—it’s about expressing how you feel in the most you way possible. So, ditch the pressure, speak from the heart, and don’t be afraid to throw in an inside joke or two.
Because when it’s real, it’s perfect.
With love and no clichés,\
Engaged AF Magazine
Want to make sure your vows sound as amazing as they feel? Check out Engaged AF Magazine for more fearless, non-cheesy wedding advice. And if you want wedding photography that captures every raw, real, and unforgettable moment, book with Epoch Moment—because these memories deserve to be remembered.
How to Write the Perfect Love Letter for Valentine’s Day or Your Wedding Vows
Let’s be honest—writing love letters and wedding vows can feel like walking a tightrope over a pit of cliché rom-com lines. You want something heartfelt, meaningful, and personal, but you don’t want to sound like you pulled your words from the script of a bad Hallmark movie or used ChatGPT. Whether you’re crafting a Valentine’s Day love letter or the vows that will define your wedding ceremony, this little guide may help you strike the perfect balance of sincerity, romance, and originality.
Step 1: Forget the Pressure—Write for Your Person
The first rule of writing a great love letter or wedding vows? Stop worrying about sounding poetic or profound. This isn’t a Shakespearean sonnet contest. It’s about your relationship, your love, and your story. Instead of aiming for perfection, focus on authenticity. Think about the little quirks, inside jokes, and shared experiences that make your relationship unique.
Ask yourself:
- What’s one of my favorite memories with this person?
- When did I first realize I loved them?
- What qualities do I admire most about them?
- How do they make my life better every single day?
Jot down your thoughts in raw, unfiltered form. You’ll refine later—but for now, just get the emotions out.
Step 2: Keep It Personal & Avoid Overused Phrases
“You complete me.” “I knew from the moment I met you.” “You are my world.”
We’ve heard them all before. While these statements may be true, they don’t capture what makes your relationship special. Instead of leaning on tired phrases, think about the specifics that make your love story one-of-a-kind.
Instead of: “You make me happy every day.” Try: “Every morning when you make me coffee exactly the way I like it—even when you don’t drink coffee yourself—I know how much you love me.”
Instead of: “I promise to always love you.” Try: “I promise to always stand by your side, whether we’re celebrating wins or dealing with burnt dinner disasters.”
Step 3: Structure It Like a Story
A great love letter or vow speech should have a natural flow. Think of it as telling a short, beautiful love story.
- Start with a memory: Bring them back to a special moment you’ve shared together. Maybe it’s the time you both got caught in the rain and laughed all the way home, or the first time you saw them with bedhead and thought, “Yep, this is my person.”
- Express what they mean to you: Talk about how they’ve changed your life, how they inspire you, or the little things they do that make you fall for them every day.
- Make your promises: Whether in a love letter or wedding vows, end with a commitment to them—whether it’s to always save them the last bite of dessert or to stand by them through every challenge life throws your way.
Step 4: Make It Sound Like You
Your words should reflect your personality. If you’re naturally funny, don’t shy away from humor. If you’re a poetic soul, embrace it. The best love letters and vows sound like the person writing them.
If you two share a playful relationship, your vows might include something like: “I vow to always pretend to be impressed by your random trivia facts—even when I know you’re making half of them up.”
If your love is more sentimental, try: “I promise to cherish every ordinary moment with you, because with you, even the simplest days feel extraordinary.”
Step 5: Keep It Concise & End with Impact
Nobody wants to sit through a 20-minute monologue (especially at a wedding). Keep it heartfelt but concise—aim for one to two minutes for vows and about one page for a love letter.
End strong. Your closing line should leave an impact.
- For wedding vows: “Today, in front of everyone we love, I choose you. Always.”
- For a Valentine’s love letter: “I don’t need a special occasion to tell you I love you—but since today is one, I’ll say it a little louder.”
Writing Perfect Fearless Vows
**If you’re not the romantic writing type, simply describe your partner and relationship to ChatGPT and ask it to write your vows in Canvas. Then make changes to what it produces and make them perfectly match your voice and style. It’s not half bad at it and if nothing else it will give you a great place to start. For example, here’s some vows written by ChatGPT with a simple prompt and no real details about the people. **
Partner 1:
“From the moment we met, you have been my greatest adventure. You are the fire that keeps me warm and the storm that keeps me on my toes. You challenge me, push me, and love me without limits. I vow to stand beside you—not just in the easy moments, but when life is messy, raw, and unfiltered. I promise to celebrate every victory, fight every battle, and always keep our love wild, untamed, and fearless. I vow to choose you every single day—loudly, boldly, and with every ounce of my stubborn, passionate soul.”
Partner 2:
“You are my favorite story—the one I never want to stop writing. With you, love is not just a word; it is action, fire, and the most beautiful kind of chaos. I vow to love you recklessly, to hold you fiercely, and to always be your safe place in a world that can be too much. I promise to dance with you in the rain, to laugh until we can’t breathe, and to remind you every damn day that you are my greatest love, my best friend, and my home. This is not just a vow—it’s a lifelong rebellion against anything less than extraordinary.”
Final Thoughts: Write from the Heart
At the end of the day, writing the perfect love letter or wedding vows isn’t about finding the most eloquent words—it’s about expressing how you feel in the most you way possible. So, ditch the pressure, speak from the heart, and don’t be afraid to throw in an inside joke or two.
Because when it’s real, it’s perfect.
With love and no clichés,\
Engaged AF Magazine
Want to make sure your vows sound as amazing as they feel? Check out Engaged AF Magazine for more fearless, non-cheesy wedding advice. And if you want wedding photography that captures every raw, real, and unforgettable moment, book with Epoch Moment—because these memories deserve to be remembered.
